Many of us have been involved in situations in life where we’ve needed help from others, whether it was borrowing money, moving to a new house or apartment, getting a babysitter, or needing emotional support and a shoulder to cry on during difficult times. Some people are hesitant to accept help, often because they don’t believe that they’ll be able to reciprocate.
In some respects they do have a valid point – for instance, you’re unlikely to be in a situation where you provide financial help to a wealthy relative who wouldn’t require it anyway. Or if you’re sickly or physically disabled, you probably won’t be able to help your strong, 200-pound friend move a heavy dresser.
However, this is a distorted mindset. Each and every one of us has something to offer. Although you may not be able to reciprocate with the exact same thoughtful kindness you were given, you can still be helpful and supportive to others in many ways. You can reach out to them, spreading kindness and effecting long-term positive change in people’s lives. This concept is known as paying it forward.
This idea holds true in the realm of smoking cessation. A friend or loved one, perhaps someone who has never smoked, may have been there for you when you were struggling to quit smoking. You can do the same for others who are trying to quit. There are currently millions of people who smoke, and many of them want to quit or have quit but relapsed. One of the nicest things you can do is to support them in their time of need, much in the same way that someone supported you. Pay it forward. Whether it’s a friend or family member that you know and interact with face to face, or a stranger in an internet support group, you can help make the difference between that person carrying through and successfully quitting, or giving up and taking up smoking again.
- Tamir

